“You Can’t Fix Crazy… So Why Are You Still Trying?”
Let’s just say it out loud and get it over with: you can’t fix crazy!
Not with kindness.
Not with boundaries.
Not with long texts full of emotional clarity and Jesus quotes.
Not even with therapy links and Bible verses lovingly delivered over coffee.
You. Can’t. Fix. Crazy.
And yet… if you’re anything like I used to be, that didn’t stop you from trying.
Maybe you thought if you were more patient, he’d stop gaslighting you.
If you were more understanding, he’d be less cruel.
If you just explained it better (this time, with bullet points!), he’d finally “get it.”
Spoiler alert: he didn’t.
I spent years in the dance — explaining, defending, proving, peacemaking, and praying. Somewhere along the way, I started believing it was my job to fix what someone else broke. To decode dysfunction. To rewrite the ending with enough grace and good behavior.
Here’s the truth that set me free:
It’s not your job to fix crazy.
It’s your job to protect your peace.
To walk in truth.
To honor your worth.
To let Jesus be the Healer — because spoiler alert again: you’re not the Savior in the story.
What does “crazy” look like?
Let’s be honest — we’re not talking about mental illness here.
We’re talking about chaos dressed up as charm.
Confusion disguised as love.
Manipulation covered in “just kidding.”
That person who leaves you drained, doubting, and apologizing — for them hurting you.
And girl… you were never meant to carry that.
So, what can you do instead?
Set boundaries and actually stick to them.
Stop responding to chaos like it’s a cry for help — it’s not, it’s a cycle.
Start healing from the lie that you were the problem.
Let go of the hope that one more chance will change them.
Hold tight to the truth that Jesus came to set you free — not trap you in toxicity.
Scripture says it better:
“God is not a God of confusion but of peace.” – 1 Corinthians 14:33
“Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.” – Proverbs 4:23
“You will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.” – John 8:32
That’s not just wisdom. That’s your permission slip.
To stop trying to fix what was never yours to fix.
To stop carrying what Jesus already died to heal.
To stop dancing with dysfunction and start walking in freedom.
Because you’re not crazy.
You’re not the fixer.
You’re the daughter of the King.
And Girlfriend — you’re done with crazy.
